We did it. We move to Hamburg a month ago. We wanted to give a Gabi chance to live dignified life no matter how long it would last. In Croatia we couldn’t provide that so we picked Hamburg, Germany, because of the doctors specialised in this disease and because of schooling and supporting system here in Germany. And here we go 🙂
I can’t say that there is much to say at this beginning. We are just dealing with paperworks and trying to figure out everything. And Germany has lots of paperwork to do. It is very hard, bureaucratic country with lots of rules and papers but on the other hand, you get everything you need to function normally, no matter how ill is your child and that is what I love here. She is equal citizen as any other and this country is taking care of that. That is something we couldn’t imagine in Croatia, so we either could leave or whining and we choose to leave.
Now we have to deal with ourselves. Find a job, do everything we need, learn language, assimilate to new culture, find friends, make our children happy and satisfied , and so on. We are only at the beginning but I can’t say it isn’t hard. especially when you don’t know language or procedure here but we keep going and working on that.
So here are the tips for moving into another country:
Don’t expect miracle
No matter how good is for you to move in the another place and no matter what are the reasons, be aware that you wan’t feel any benefit at the beginning. First days will be great, because everything is new and you have so much to see and explore but that is only the tourist phase and it wan’t last. After a few days you will be sick of exploring and you will have to do the first steps to start a real life. And then it will hit you hard. But like the first phase, this second phase won’t last long either and you just need to go through it. You will feel benefits at the end and you will feel like home one day. Just keep that in mind and don’t let your feelings interfere with your perspective.
Start with little things
You can’t have your old social structure in new country. You are newbie and don’t let that get down to you. Start with little thing. If you have a child, going in the playgrounds will be good for you and your child and you can meet some parents that could be your future friends. If you have pet, like a dog, you can go to walks in the park where are plenty of dog owners and you already have one sharing interest and that is something you can start with. If you had any hobby or activity in you home country you can find a group to join in your new place. That is also a way to connect with people with same interests like yours. And finally you have internet. Search for groups of people who are also just moved and want to share experience and maybe socialise. I put that in the end because real contact is something you will desperately seek first weeks or months in new country and virtual one you can always have with your old friends.
Inform yourself about everything and I mean everything. If you haven’t done it before moving this is definitely a deadline. Search and explore about basic things like public transport, doctors nearby, schools, kindergartens, banking, phone and internet operating, procedures and even laws. If you are inform you will definitely spare yourself of wasted time and save yourself some money and most important you won’t get surprised. When I just came in Hamburg and sign my address, I’ve got a letter few days after with a very short deadline where I have to inform this Hamburg school center in what school my daughter will go. I have only had few days to do that but I was stunned because I didn’t know yet and this wasn’t easy to do because my daughter has special needs and she can’t go to normal school and I needed advice from the doctor where she could go, but I didn’t solve our insurance yet and it took only a moment to be in stress and going crazy about something I haven’t heard before. We solved our issue but it costed me time, money and some sleepless nights, so informing is best thing you can do for yourself.
In this period where you still don’t live a normal and everyday life, enjoy. If you are not working immediately, children are not in school and kindergarten while you are preparing everything, enjoy a little bit. There’s no much opportunity in everyday life to be with your family and have more time than usual. Set daily goals what you need to do and enjoy free time. Explore, go to walk, have a picnic, find interesting places, play a sport with your family. It would be like little treat after everything stressful that is going on and this will keep you fresh and strong 🙂